Are you in a relationship with a narcissist?

He almost always gets angry, becomes defensive, or goes on the offensive.

He can listen, but often takes it personally or makes excuses.

He sometimes gets upset, but we can talk about it.

He usually takes it well and tries to take it into account.

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He may ask about them, but quickly turns the conversation back to himself.

He’s interested, but sometimes his own problems and worries make it hard for him to give you enough attention.

He always shows genuine interest and concern.

All the time—it’s the main topic of conversation.

Quite often—he likes being the center of attention.

In moderation, usually when there’s something significant to talk about.

Very badly: he gets angry, irritated, and tries to draw your attention back to himself.

He’s fine with it, but isn’t particularly happy about it.

He enjoys the moment and is happy for me.

He often ignores them, believing his own needs are more important.

He may respect them if you ask him directly.

Sometimes he may be inattentive, but there’s no ill intent behind it.

He always respects and takes my boundaries into account.

Instead of asking, they’ll blame me for not having done it yet.

They’ll never ask directly, but will try to manipulate me.

They’ll try to meet their own needs themselves.

They say, “Stop whining,” or dismiss my feelings.

They show only superficial empathy and quickly try to “solve the problem” or change the subject.

They try to help, but don’t always understand exactly what I need.

They genuinely try to understand, support, and comfort me.

They always need to win, put the other person down, and prove they’re superior.

They rarely admit they’re wrong, even when it’s obvious.

They can compromise if it’s not a matter of principle.

They look for a compromise and a solution that works for both of us.

Absolutely awful. Like a humiliated and helpless person.

It can be difficult for me, but I believe we can work things out.

They get jealous, downplay my achievements, or try to take some of the credit.

They seem indifferent or say something like, “Well, good for you.”